Love is a Battlefield
Happy Valentine’s Day! A day to celebrate and remind ourselves of the sometimes heart breaking, often depressing, and always confusing emotion we experience in our lives: love. Unlike anger or happiness, love is a strange emotion that doesn’t give us one definite sense of feeling. Instead, it is full of dichotomies and can strike every other emotion at various times. Love can bring us the most extreme happiness, while at the same time bringing us sadness and a sense of loss. Love can bring us a sense of security, and it can bring us the unexpected. It can bring us comfort, and it can make us do some pretty crazy things. And just when you think you may have it figured out, it throws us a curveball that some can have the strength to hit, and some can swing and miss.
Writers and poets have been giving us insight into the topic of love since the beginning of time, and we still don’t have any definite answer. My thought is that even though everyone, (or mostly everyone) gets their heart broken at least once, and even though it may seem like the hardest thing to get through, it’s important to remember that in the end it always works out. Everyone will eventually find their love with a fairy tale ending, but you may have to go through a lot of loves that end like a Shakespearian tragedy in order to get there.
I have heard of some strange love stories and have come to notice a trend- that most people are blind when they are in a relationship and sometimes its take that heartbreak to actually look at the situation from outside and realize what you need. A friend of mine was in a relationship for seven years. After a long time of fighting and truly not being happy, they ended the relationship. Sure, she cried a lot, she felt lonely, and she missed him like crazy. But at the end of the day, she knew that it was right and she could finally see that she was happier without him. She told me that it opened her eyes to the realization that she didn’t like the person she became when she was with him, and when she met her now-fiance, she saw what a healthy, happy relationship should actually feel like.
I’ve had other friends who had to go through a lot of heartbreak for both her and her boyfriend to realize what they had. Sometimes when you love somebody so much, and are with them for a long time, you take that person for granted. You fight too much over stupid things, you cancel plans when something more exciting comes along, you say hurtful things. But when you actually have that time apart from each other, you realize how much it hurts and how badly you need to be with that person. Strangely, it sometimes takes a bit of space to bring a couple closer and to realize that you never want to lose them again.
And finally, I’ve had friends who have had to go through a lot of feats with their significant other. A best friend of mine has had to deal with an ex telling her he wants back in her life, her boyfriends friend putting the moves on him and telling him she loved him, and him literally moving around the world. But in the end, they realized that if they can get through these things now, they can get through anything in the future, no matter how difficult the situation may be.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that love is a strange thing that can put us in some strange situations. And while it may make us angry, depressed, lonely, heartbroken, and confused, and while sometimes it can hurt, in the end it, it’s the most wonderful feeling in the world.
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