Friends
I don’t think the boys from Flight of the Conchords could say it much better. And I think that it is when you are in your twenties that you truly begin to realize who your friends are, and what kind of friends you are looking for.
When I reflect upon my life five years ago, I realize that a lot has changed since high school. I think most people will agree with me that there is a huge transition between being in your twenties and your late teens. So many individual changes occur in one’s personal life that consequently causes changes in your social life as well. I find that it is when you are going through these personal changes that your current friends either stick by you or slowly disperse.
For example, one of the most trying times in the realm of friendships is when somebody from your circle moves away. This happened to me and my group of high school friends when we went to college and university. Being one of the friends that moved away for school, I started to notice a big shift with who I spent my evenings on the phone with and sending emails to. Slowly, I lost touch with a lot of people that I was friends with in high school and I noticed my circle of friends becoming much tighter. This is when I was able to differentiate between friends and acquaintances.
Living in different cities and having very busy school and work schedules also made it very difficult to see one another. But again, it was my close friends that made a conscious effort to plan get-togethers and to make sure we could make it to each other’s birthdays and other special occasions. They are the ones that I would make sure to see when I visit home and who, no matter how long ago it was I last saw, we could pick up right where we left off. For us, it seems like the more time we spend apart, the closer we actually are.
In every friendship, there are disagreements and change in views on certain subjects. I’ve learnt with my group of friends that true friends don’t necessarily say what it is you want to hear. They know they can be brutally honest if they disagree with something, and even if this upsets the other person at first, they know not to get angry or to stop talking to that person. Me and my best friends have gotten in many serious debates over the years and no matter how big the issue seemed at the time, we knew that it would pass over and that our friendship wouldn’t dissipate just because of opposing views. And we can truly respect each others opinions even if we don’t agree with them ourselves.
I think it is a true feat for a group of girl friends to remain best friends throughout their lives. I mean, when guys get in an argument they can shake hands the next day and laugh about it. It doesn’t matter if the other guy has a black eye or if he lost a thousand dollars on poker, they have a strange way of getting over things much faster and easier than girls. Let’s face it. Girls can be catty and hold grudges and can go days without speaking to someone. So girls, think of your best friends, and realize how fortunate you are to have such an amazing group that will always open their arms, not turn their heads, when a falling out might happen.
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1 Comment to Friends
I gotta say I love the use of the Flight of the Conchords video!! They are hilarious..In regards to your blog, I agree that disagreements are inevitable in friendships. The fact that true friends do not consistently abide by a social contract with one another and instead may be brutally honest, telling you things you may not want to hear is part of friendship. They provide a real opinion and not a fabricated fairy-tale just to make you feel better. At the same time they are not there to put you down and instead are there to help you back up. Cheers to Friends la la la la.
April 4, 2009