Awkwardly Persistent Men
Since I’ve become a bartender, I’ve encountered my share of awkward moments with drunk men asking for my number. Sometimes the men have a hard enough time putting together a sentence after partaking in a few pitchers with their buddies. This makes it easy to avoid the question because they likely will forget what they asked two minutes prior. Other times the guys are too drunk to remember my name, which I use as a valid excuse not to be interested. And when the guys are coherent enough to actually ask and await an answer, I simply tell them I have a boyfriend but thanks for the offer. Most times the guy takes it as it is and stops trying. But there has been a few moments where the guy just won’t take no for an answer.
Example one occurred just a few days ago. The guy called me over towards him and began with some cheesy line. I watched him pull out his phone and I looked helplessly towards his friend who was laughing at the guy trying so hard to be smooth. I responded that it was very nice of him to ask for my number but that I have a boyfriend. His response was that he was only in the country for two months so we should have fun together for just a little while. I couldn’t believe this guy. Was he actually insisting that I should cheat on my man and that this would somehow be justified by the fact that the affair would terminate within two months? His friend laughed at him, I told him that the bartender I was working with knew my boyfriend, and then he ignored me the rest of his visit.
On a far different note was a really disturbing story I recently heard from a guy friend of mine. While walking home he got approached by a much older man who asked him for the time. He told him and continued to walk but the man kept at pace with him and continued to make small talk. My friend started to feel very uncomfortable once they finally approached his condo. The man asked if he lived there and my friend quickly lied and told him he was visiting someone. The random man then asked him if they could hang out sometime. My very straight male friend was aghast. He bluntly, but somewhat politely, said no. The guy didn’t take that for an answer and asked again if he could just have his number to get together later on. He also said that he had seen him about three blocks earlier and my friend then realized he had been followed for quite some time before he was first approached. He then picked up his pace and took an alternate route to his front door so he could ditch the crazy stalker.
And one last story came from a girlfriend of mine who just did not have the patience to deal with the extremely persistent man that was trying to hit on her and all of her girlfriends. She did a good job of ignoring the man and his smooth lines at first but when she was mid-way through a story and he sauntered in only to announce how beautiful she was she decided to finally tell him how annoying he was being and how rude it was to interrupt. The guy still didn’t take the hint and told her she seemed like a challenge. She rolled her eyes and told him that she was a lesbian… which was not true.
What I’m getting at boys is that although women do like to be pursued, there is a fine line between courageous, ambitious man who goes after what he likes and Mr.Desperado. If a woman clearly doesn’t seem interested, she probably isn’t. And there are definite signs to let you know this, such as: yawning, wandering eyes that are looking for a friend to rescue her, eye-rolling, and telling you that she is into girls.
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