Valentine’s Day Letdowns
I never thought I would be a Valentines Day scrooge. I have always loved the holiday, even if it meant sharing the day with friends or family instead of a significant other. This year, however, things seemed different with not just me, but with a bunch of other people. I saw more tears, more anger, and more frustration on this day than any other and I couldn’t help but wonder, is V-day more like D-day?
The problem with Valentines Day is that there are so many expectations for it. Girls expect romance, flowers, candles, dinner, etc. and when the guy treats the holiday like any other day and opts out of the spoiling aspect of it, the girl get disappointed. I have seen many guys rebel against the holiday, thinking that it’s a stupid emotional day for girls and that men don’t really get anything out of it. This is wrong men. While it may be true that Valentines Day is more of a holiday for the ladies, if you actually do treat her how she is expecting to be treated on this day, you will get A LOT in return. If you don’t, however, your night will be a living hell.
And for those who are single, V-Day is even more disappointing. This was the first time in years that I didn’t have a V-Day date because I had to work. I didn’t think I would care at all, and I certainly did not want to be one of those mopey, depressed girls on this day. But let me tell you, when you aren’t going out on this day, you really start to notice all the things that you aren’t getting and other girls are. And when this happens, it is kind of hard not to be upset.
For example, I took the subway to work and never before have I seen so many men carrying bouquets of flowers. I get to work and see all my girlfriends who are finishing up the day shift and getting ready for a night out. I hear my friends excitedly talk about their plans that involve cooking with their significant others, going out for martinis, even taking bubble baths. And here I am ordering meals and mixing martinis for these couples.
But while I worked, I also noticed a lot of people who were fortunate enough to have a date but less fortunate for it to be a good one. For example, I saw a couple get in an argument and the man actually walked out on the girlfriend. He not only left her embarrassed as hell, but he also left her with the bill.
I was also working with a friend who kept checking her phone to hear ‘Happy Valentines Day’ from her long distance boyfriend. This call never came because he was too busy at work and then fell asleep before she was done her shift. This resulted in tears from a girl who normally understands if she can’t talk to her boyfriend one night, but was unforgiving on this day.
Another couple came in where the guy asked me what the cheapest beer we have is. I remember thinking in my head how sorry I felt for his date who wouldn’t even be spoiled a tiny bit on the day meant for spoiling. But then again, at least he was bringing her out and she had a date for the night.
Either way, I couldn’t help but notice this year that V-Day seemed like a doom for a lot of girls. Are our expectations too high for one day? Is chivalry actually becoming extinct? Was I looking for bad things since I couldn’t go out that night? I have no idea, but guys, please remember that it’s one day to show your significant other that you care. Even if you disagree with the holiday or show your love to your partner every day, we still are expecting just a little something.
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1 Comment to Valentine’s Day Letdowns
I think Valentines Day has unfortunately become misconstrued as a day to celebrate romantic love exclusively, and that’s a travesty. Valentines Day should be about passion, not romance. If you’re passionate about something: celebrate that passion on Valentines Day. If you’re passionate about a relationship you have with a long time friend: celebrate that passion. It’s not about what people do for you on Valentines Day, or what you lack on Valentines Day…. rather it’s about what you do to celebrate your passions. Make it positive!
February 17, 2010